Carolyn Hax, Washington Post

Carolyn Hax

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Recent articles by Carolyn:

Carolyn Hax: Don’t tell, but don’t cover for brother who’s being vague about divorce

He hasn’t told his parents he’s leaving because of his affair. → Read More

Carolyn Hax: Her son wants to spend his 14th birthday with friends, not family

You raised a great kid. Now tell him you’ll miss him and that you’ll celebrate together later. → Read More

Carolyn Hax: It’s okay to have a blue Christmas

Her dad died this year, and she doesn’t feel like joining her long-distance siblings for the holiday. → Read More

Carolyn Hax: A newly divorced woman doesn’t want to be angry the rest of her life

She sees friends who are bitter decades later and wants to avoid that. Here’s how she can. → Read More

Carolyn Hax: When a shared vacation goes every which way but yours

A friend’s wish list is overwhelming you because you aren’t sharing your own. → Read More

Carolyn Hax: Her feeling of being slighted doesn’t pass the sniff test

Yes, fragrances trigger her asthma, but her sister-in-law was offering a reasonable option. → Read More

Carolyn Hax: Divorce is a big step, but getting through it requires little ones

Go to work. Cry. Eat. Sleep. Wake up. Talk. Repeat. Examine “bad choices.” Don’t repeat. → Read More

Carolyn Hax: How to get your sister-in-law to lighten up on the weight questions

Don’t ghost your brother. Just tell her straight up that it is none of her business. → Read More

Carolyn Hax: If you’re old enough to marry, you’re old enough to pick the dress

It’s the day she’s always dreamed of. Unfortunately, she’s the mother of the bride. → Read More

Carolyn Hax: Give your feelings some time to gestate

A pregnant fiancee is overjoyed about motherhood, but she has doubts about matrimony. → Read More

Carolyn Hax: Mom’s carping is ‘water off a duck’s back,’ but hubby’s tired of ducking

Whenever she visits, she criticizes their housekeeping. It’s okay to defend yourselves. → Read More

Carolyn Hax: Relationship history doesn’t have to be a sore subject

If you can’t say how you got where you are, how do you know you’re on the right path? → Read More

Carolyn Hax: Be a lifeline to a brother whose belligerent wife may be mentally ill

As the red flags continue to unfurl, you’re right to be concerned about him and the kids. → Read More

Carolyn Hax: She got married, but her bank account remains single

Her husband may have a lot of student debt, but that doesn’t make separate finances right. → Read More

Carolyn Hax: When people see a rainbow family through the prism of stupidity

You’re better off on taking the high road when oafs ask about your multiracial family. → Read More

Carolyn Hax: How a college student can help siblings left in a dysfunctional home

The situation is bad enough for an intervention. Start by calling their teachers and principal. → Read More

Carolyn Hax: My boyfriend and I never fight. Is that a problem?

It all depends on whether you are emotionally mature or dishonest about your needs. → Read More

Carolyn Hax: Tell anti-vax grandparents that they’re going to feel a little pinch

Be firm: No vaccine, no visit. And then let’s talk about a fortitude booster for you, too. → Read More

Carolyn Hax: Here comes the . . . Bob. What to do about an unreliable groomsman.

If he shows up in the middle of the vows, you’ll have a great story to tell the grandchildren. → Read More

Carolyn Hax: Growing apart from friends? Acceptance isn’t what he needs yet.

A man’s friends are buying homes and having kids, and he feels stagnated in comparison. → Read More