Keith R. Wilson
Medium
Rochester, NY, United States
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Have an Escape Plan. If a grizzly bear wandered into your…
If a grizzly bear wandered into your home while you were asleep, slipped into bed beside you, and woke you up with its hot breath in your face, what would you do? You might not run right away. The… → Read More
Three Ways to Deliver a Message
When it comes to verbalizing what you want, there are three ways of delivering a message, just like there are three ways of delivering a package. I’d like to show you what they are if that’s OK? → Read More
Pay No Attention to the Alarm Going Off in Your Head
The first step towards managing conflict in your relationship.. “Pay No Attention to the Alarm Going Off in Your Head” is published by Keith R Wilson in Hello, Love. → Read More
To Confess or Not to Confess, That is the Question
No question about it, confess to yourself. If you can’t be honest with yourself, who can you be honest with? → Read More
The Mountaintop Moment. The First Step Towards Reconciliation
There comes a time, after you’ve worked through your sense of being a victim, that you’ve climbed a mountaintop and seen at the big picture. You realize the part you played, and it hasn’t been… → Read More
How to Re-Traumatize Yourself
First, a bad thing happens. Rape, murder, combat, abuse. You don’t have a lot of control over it. That’s the point. Something happens way, way out of your control. You barely make it. Now you’re left with the memories. That’s the trauma. → Read More
The Scab Pickers. If you’ve been following along, by this…
If you’ve been following along, by this point, you’ve come a long way towards peace with the things that have happened to you. You have connected with feelings you had previously turned away. You’ve… → Read More
How to Tell If You’re Just Being a Big Baby
How to Tell If You’re Just Being a Big Baby. At some point someone may have said, or maybe you just thought it: You’re just being a big baby. Let’s take a look and see if that’s really…. → Read More
Playing the Victim. So far, you’ve been bearing right on…
So far, you’ve been bearing right on the road to reconciliation. There’s a good reason for this. To the left are all the hazards that come from not taking your injuries seriously enough: becoming an… → Read More
The Helpless. I’m glad I didn’t decide to be an…
I’m glad I didn’t decide to be an experimental psychologist. If I had, I might’ve had to lock dogs up in cages and shock them for the sake of science. As it is, others can do it and we can benefit… → Read More
The Discount Pardoners. Once you’ve acknowledged that someone…
Once you’ve acknowledged that someone you love has hurt you, next comes the difficult decision of what to do about it. → Read More
Meaningful Suffering. Versus Becoming an Impossible Martyr
Versus Becoming an Impossible Martyr. “Meaningful Suffering” is published by Keith R Wilson in Hello, Love. → Read More
Victims in Denial. One type you’ll see on the side of the…
One type you’ll see on the side of the road to reconciliation are the Deniers. You’ll see them, but they won’t see you. They’re blind, deaf, and insensible to touch. They only know what they want to… → Read More
Wreckage on the Road to Reconciliation
You’re wounded and angry. Someone close to you, who should love you, hurt you instead. This person might be a parent, a sibling, a child, a friend, a partner, or a spouse. Whoever it is; where you… → Read More
Using the Rupture Ratio to Decide What You Want of Your Relationship
Getting hurt sucks. You’ll want to move on. Before you can, you’ll need to know where to go. What is it that you want, exactly? → Read More
The People of the Mind. As if it wasn’t hard enough to deal…
As if it wasn’t hard enough to deal with the people who hurt you who were supposed to love you, you also have to deal with their representatives you carry around in your head. Actual people you can… → Read More
Listen to Your Lookout. If you’re in a close relationship, you…
If you’re in a close relationship, you have a resource others don’t have. You have a lookout. → Read More
A Guide to Pain and Suffering
Your feelings tell you about the state of your body. If you’re putting on a roof, carrying shingles up a ladder, swinging a hammer until your hand falls off, sweating it out at a hundred and ten… → Read More
Learn to Walk. Stand with your feet comfortably…
Stand with your feet comfortably together. Take one foot and stick it out in the direction you want to go until you throw yourself off balance. Then, at the last instant, when you’re about to fall on… → Read More
See, Do, Teach. Learning skills as therapy.
If you’ve got serious problems, you can’t just go to a shrink’s office, unload them all, and walk away a new man. You’ll be disappointed. You might feel better for a minute, but if you go home and do the same things you’ve always done, you’ll get what you’ve always got. → Read More